Hello people! How are you? This week I have been
thinking about those people who are always ready to ruin your day no matter why
or how. I tried to find a similar way of saying what we call is Spanish “mala
onda”. I found some interesting things. For example, you can say bad vibes when
you want to talk about a situation which creates negative energies or unsafe
feelings. You can also use it as a verb, for example when you say Stop, you are badvibing me! In this case
it means to worsen a person’s mood, to annoy or to cause discomfort.
But the thing is, that sometimes when you are in an
extremely and inexplicable good mood, there are people in charge of killing all
your energy and your spirit in just a few seconds. It is the case of those
people who always tell you what you do wrong, but never something positive
about what you have done. Or those who are in a bad mood and because of that
they want to ruin your day too, so that they are not the only ones feeling miserable.
This also happens, most of the times, with people who have more power than we
do (in terms of hierarchy) and who think that our lives and feelings are not so
important, so they dedicate themselves to humiliating and mortifying others.
My question is; why don’t these people go and try to
do things that make them happy, instead of being all the time trying to make
others feel unhappy? It can’t be that hard. Just go to the countryside, meet
your friends, make love, eat some ice-cream. Come on! Let’s try it before
ruining someone else’s day. I’m sure this also happens to you, right?
Let's stand up and say: Stop badvibing us!
Be happy!
Natalia.
Dear friend, you are absolutely right! I support the idea that what is in our minds turns to be real. What we think and say, later on becomes part of reality. Thus, we shouldn´t say negative things related to other people or related to our activities, because... they are going to exist! Two days ago I had a client who was receiving a check as a way of finishing a compensation claim. We were at the Bank, talking with the manager, in order for him to be opened a bank account. And he kept asking all sort of negative questions: "What if the manager rejects me as a client?..." "What if then the check has no back-funds? ... " Etc. I had to tell him: STOP IT !! in the middle of the Bank. Poor people, who never have learnt to enjoy the possibilities of their lives!
ResponderEliminarI loved your post Naty. This is actually something that I have been thinking for a long time. What on Earth happens with those people who are constantly ruining our day? Just because they have a miserable life it doesn´t mean that they have to make other people feel miserable as well. And there is a point in which you actually feel like you are the one who is doing things wrong and because of that this person treats you in such a way. But you know what? I have been thinking and considering this idea the last couple of weeks and I finally told to myself: "YOU ARE NOT THE ONE TO BLAME NADYA. THEY HAVE A PROBLEM NOT ONLY WITH LIFE BUT ALSO WITH THEMSELVES. AND THE ONLY WAY IN WHICH THEY CAN FEEL BETTER IS BY HUMMILIATING OTHERS". And after that I felt much better,haha :)
ResponderEliminarI call this attitude Envy. Wishing to have what others have and enjoy; I have encountered this kind of people in my life and their comments just made me realized the way they really are and what they feel towards you. With one small phrase they can shatter to pieces your good mood, and leave a bad vibe floating in the air.It is even worst if it is in your working environment and you have to endure those comments and keep on doing your job. Thanks to Nadya for her phrase in capitals! Just the same I would have liked to say...
ResponderEliminarApart from loving your topic and agreeing with you, I loved the picture of that little boy ready to punch someone on the face!!! Haha! So cute!!
ResponderEliminarI think that you are right. There are people who are unhappy and can only see your mistakes or what they think you are doing wrong (because maybe, sometimes, you are not doing anything wrong). It is not easy, many times, to play the fool and not listen to what they say but, I think it is necessary to do so (to play the fool, I mean) in order to be and feel a little bit better. In the end, it is us who decide how to live and what to do, and what others think or say should not matter.
First of all, thanks for teaching us a new expression. I think it is quite useful to describe certain situations. “Stop badvibing me!” sounds great. Secondly, well I think you are right. It is true that sometimes we are very happy and someone seems to discourage us with their bad mood. However, I have a strategy; I feel sorry for them instead of letting them putting me down. Now, I prefer to observe people´s behavior rather than being affected by what they think. Well, it works for me. Just wanted to share it!
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